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How To Not Stay Defeated
Longing For That Mate



I'm 20 years old, and at this age you start to wonder what you are going to do with your life. You ask God, "Okay God, where are you taking me next?" If you are single, in the midst of that prayer you are also probably asking God, "So who is my mate?" or "When is that person going to come in my life? Because God, I'm ready!" When in reality you are nowhere near ready to receive that blessing. 

Can God give you a huge mansion and an exotic car, such as a Viper or Lamborghini?

Tell me this…why would God bless you with a blessing you couldn't handle?

Yes, God can bring in the perfect mate for you now! But you probably would not be ready.

Everything in His time, "God is never late, seldom early, but always on time!"


Let me tell you a little bit about an experience I recently had. Not too long ago I met this beautiful young lady, her name is Claire. We became really close friends, and when I say friends. That is exactly what I mean. Her and I constantly prayed for each other and for God to be in the middle of our friendship so we can do His will and not ours. Well there came a point and time when we both were feeling the same thing for each other. Daily we told each other how much we appreciated one another. So it escalated and we got to the point when we talked about being together for the rest of our lives because we felt that it was not a coincidence that we met the way we met. No I wont tell you how, because some of you guys would flip out, but yes, God does work in mysterious ways. 

So our friendship became almost pointless to me because I felt that if we didn't talk about things that pertained to the future, then it wasn't worth having that conversation. 

So when I didn't get phone calls every other second, I began to get worried and so very anxious. That is not from God you guys! 

Philippians 4:6-7

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 

Man, I began to get so miserable and could not really focus on anything else than on what was happening. I don't even really know what was happening. I was just beginning to feel so defeated and that everything else was pointless. Yes, I prayed and read my Bible, but not with the right motives. I just kept on going to God and saying, "Oh please God, help me. I need help Jesus, Lord take care of this situation for me. This isn't right, something is wrong." 

When you spend time in prayer you can't always be like a child begging for everything you want. You have to spend time with God just because you want to be near Him and in His presence.

So I kept on begging the Holy Spirit to reveal to me what the matter was and to reveal to her how badly she was acting because all of a sudden she was not telling me how great of a person I was every other time we talked. Guys, I have never in my entire life have felt like this about anything or anyone person. So this was all so very new to me. But yes, I've been confused before and seriously attacked by the Devil. This probably has been one of his best schemes or plots to discourage me. 

And one day, I was getting ready to go have breakfast at McDonald's and then head to the school to go study. As I was walking towards the door, I felt God speaking to me telling me to go pray and seek Him. So I said, " Yeah ok, that's true, just a few minutes will not slow my day down too much." So I turned right back around and went to kneel down next to my bed. 

So I began to pray, and I felt like God wanted to deal with me and take care of that burden for me. So I said, " Sure God, that's cool, but you know I'm hungry and I have to go study, but I am committing to you one hour this day that I will spend with you before I go to bed tonight." Then I got up and started to walk out the door, and as I was locking it, I felt the Holy Spirit tugging at my heart, saying, " Danny, go back in there and go read my word." So I obeyed Him. I walked back in my apartment and read my Proverbs for the day. And I could not believe what I was reading. Trust me guys, I had read that chapter a million times, but this time, in a desperate time it had a different meaning. I actually felt like some of those words had been written specifically for me. 

After I finished reading my Proverbs, I went to McDonald's to have my breakfast. 
(It was past breakfast time, so I had to have the regular menu stuff, that was a bummer.) 

But some thing was happening while I was eating. The Holy Spirit kept on insisting that I'd go back to my apartment and not go to school. He was very persistent, so I agreed. As soon as I walked into my apartment, I started to feel His presence. I kept on walking towards my room and immediately as soon as my knees hit the ground. Oh my goodness, I began to weep like a child. I have never cried that much in my entire life. I've been broken before but this time, it was different. So I cried, and cried, and prayed. I felt different that day, I felt like God wanted to keep on working in me to help me get through this situation. 

That night, I didn't go out when all my friends literally came knocking at my door and asked me to go with them. Also that night there was a Mercy Me concert that I felt like I had to go to as part of my healing process. So I did and it blessed me tremendously. The next day, which was a Sunday I did not go to church because I had to study, but even then felt like God was not through with me. That afternoon as I began to study, I could not focus or concentrate on anything. I said to myself, " Why is this happening, I know I'm not like this. I'm not a loser, I've never let the Devil keep me down for so long!" I remembered one sermon from Lisa Comes that she preached in Lakewood Church telling about when she was attacked the hardest in her life facing the most difficult situation, she said she prayed, she sought the Lord, but most importantly she praised her way through her circumstance. So I decided to do the same. Because I was tired of feeling defeated and down for no apparent reason. So I stopped what I was doing and got up out of my chair, put on some praise music, and began to dance and praise God for what He was doing. I began to jump, shout and sing like I was victorious. I shouted to the Devil telling him that God had given me the victory, and that he was defeated. That he was under my feet!

Then after I was done getting my crazy on for Jesus, a peace began to come over me!
And that's what did it! I decided that if it would be God's will for me to marry this girl and be with her for the rest of my life then He would be in charge of taking care of it and not me or her. 

You can't be afraid to allow God to be in control because then you wouldn't be showing complete trust in Him. That's what it's all about, to trust and remain faithful to God. 


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