...you need to pray," was the first medical report I heard after 
about ten minutes of anxious waiting. I had felt a sense of dread for 
several hours already that night, and this announcement only made it 
more acute. Maybe that is common, I don’t know but I had an overwhelming 
feeling that I was going to lose either my wife or my baby girl. 

I’m sure my fears would have seemed pretty unfounded just minutes before. 
It had seemed like a pretty routine delivery but within minutes our whole 
lives came crashing down. When the baby’s heart rate suddenly dropped, we 
were suddenly rushed off to the operating room. I heard the doctor yelling, 
"Get the father away from the door." I stood and watched anyway. The last 
words my wife heard were, "Knife up, stat!" and she drifted into 
unconsciousness. Kathleen was split open on the operating table before 
me, and our baby, Brea, was pulled out. Brea was taken just out of my 
sight into a corner of the room; however, I could still see some of the 
doctors and nurses who were attending to her.

After several minutes, when I realized that they were still treating 
her I actually thought, "Everything must be okay. She must still be 
alive." Only when I was asked to pray for my baby did I realize that 
they were working on her in a desperate panic, and not as part of normal routine.

Another 10 minutes passed before my fears were confirmed. Brea had passed 
away just before being delivered. I held her in my arms, but I knew she 
wasn’t there. When Kathleen came to, I had to tell her that Brea had died. 
It ripped my heart out. Nine months of hope, love, plans, prayers, and 
dreams died all at once. We cried all night long. In the morning I went 
home and told our other three children. More tears. More pain.

Kathleen and I dealt with a flood of emotions over the next several months. 
It was hard to imagine how God could allow such a thing to happen. We had 
previously been devastated by the loss of three children due to miscarriage, 
and quite frankly, we thought God knew that we had been through enough.

Of course over time we realized that God had never promised to keep us 
from pain. We had an expectation on God that was unrealistic. We wanted 
this world to be exactly what the next is supposed to be. In fact, Heaven 
is described as being exactly what we were looking for a place where God 
will wipe every tear from our eyes, and where there will be no more death, 
or mourning, or crying, or pain" In our minds we had a picture of exactly 
how the world should be. However, what should be, and what was weren’t 
lining up. Our hope was simply misplaced. We hoped this world would be like 
heaven, and it’s not!

If we had truly lost a child we had never met, we would have been 
devastated beyond belief. Instead, we were greatly comforted in knowing 
that our precious Brea was not dead, but was simply in heaven. In fact, 
we were never robbed of her, but still have an eternity to spend with her. 
You see, our only true hope is in eternity. Paul wrote in the Bible, "If 
only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are to be pitied more than 
all men." Hope in this life is futile. Because of our hope in eternal life, 
we have been able to go on, knowing that the things that are painfully 
absent from this life are the same things that make heaven all the more meaningful.

God’s desire is that you, and that every single person would spend 
eternity in Heaven with Him. Because that’s what He wants, He’s left us 
clear directions on how to get there. In fact, you can confidently know 
that you have eternal life. The Bible says that you can never be good 
enough to get to heaven, but that Christ died on the cross to pay for all 
the wrongs you’ve ever done. That’s the great thing about eternal life. 
It’s dependent on what God did for you, not what you can try to do for 
Him. Jesus said that, "Everyone who believes in Me may have eternal 
life. For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that 
whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life." 
By believing in Christ, and by trusting in what He did for you, you too 
can have eternal life, and share in a hope that runs far deeper than any 
struggle you’ll ever face. God Bless You

Steve Nelson
SteveNelson@summitview.com